Isn’t it crazy as women how much we put on our plates! I know you dad’s out there get it too, but there is a slight difference between men and women. Men tend to have tunnel vision and a get it done and move on to the next thing psychological makeup and attitude and women tend to have octopus arm complex. We are constantly juggling everything between work, family and life and can and need to switch gears on a dime. Have you ever been on an important call when the other line chimes in, you answer and it’s your child’s school saying: “pick your little one up right now”? You shift your business hat to your mommy hat in two seconds and off you go. No wonder you might feel bogged down in a mire of mental and physical to-dos! The fact is life and this phenomenon will not be changing until your kids are happily off to college or living their lives. So how do you change to make it work for you right now in this moment of your life? How do you get off the Ferris Wheel of overwhelm? This is a question we are all trying to figure out. I know I am. I haven’t written a blog since December because in January I hit the ground running with my business, kids, hubby, home, life like a rocket and it is only now that I realize whoa what about the things that make me happy as a person. Writing and sharing make me get a chance to explore a whole different side of me. Clear your plate and don’t forget that this cruise ship does not work if the captain is not fulfilled, happy and has a clear vision of what is not just needed but wanted. Try these tips so you can get out from under and see the beauty around you.
Grab a cup of coffee or tea each morning and spend 5 minutes mapping out your day. What needs to get done: work, kids, errands and list a few things to tackle on each.
Figure out which days you will focus on what task. Mondays and Fridays office work, business development and appointments (professional or personal). Tuesday, Wednesdays and Thursday full business mode – clients – accounts – customers.
If there is something on your list your spouse, child, co-worker, staff can do give it to them. Freeing you up to do something else gets more done and makes the pile smaller.
Regroup and Wrap It Up
At the end of the day, check off what has been completed and what needs to get moved to tomorrow. Then let it go. Pick a time each day that you will clock out and change hats into mom, wife, you mode and put away your work list and devices. If you do not do this your family will feel it and you will never be off. Make sure to let people know your work hours Monday through Friday 9-5 or 8-4 or 6-3, whatever that looks like for you stick to it.
Creative You Time
Find an outlet outside of your work and family that allows you to explore you as a person and a woman. You need to fill your well to be able to give to others. Whether it is reading, writing a book, drawing, dancing, cooking, walking on the beach or hiking find something that reminds you that you are still in there underneath all those hats and that huge pile of to do! Let yourself shine and get unbogged - I can bet it will all get done and you will feel great!
After all, “Life moves pretty fast. If you don’t stop and look around once in a while, you could miss it.” – Ferris Bueller
Till next time…
think it . dream it . do it… and unbog it!